I Have No Flaws...
I had to make sure this wasn't a momentary feeling before writing about this. But it's true. I have no flaws. Guys, it's only a controversial statement because of everything we were (and are) taught to believe about who we are and how we're perceived by other people. I won't lie in saying that I paused heavily before sitting to write this post because of the nature of what I'm saying here. Then I thought, you've got nothing to lose and nothing to prove, and that was the urge I needed.
At the core of my being, I believe that I have no flaws - and that's the same for all humans walking the Earth. I'm one who believes that humans are inherently good, though many times our actions indicate otherwise. I tend to chalk up a lot of our wrongdoings to socialization and indoctrination. Sure, there are cases that prove differently; there will always be (nothing is black and white after all). In saying I have no flaws, I'm not saying I'm perfect, or even trying to insinuate that I'm better than the next person - I'm speaking to a mentality. Think about the word "flaw" for a second: a defect; an imperfection; a fault - but based on whose standards? How beautiful is it that we're all so unique? That though we may all desire the same things in the end, our ways of achieving them can be infinitely different? Because of this notion in itself, my belief is that to want to change anything within ourselves is not necessarily wanting to fix something that's wrong, but simply wanting to adjust until we find what, invariably, makes sense (much like a camera or your eyes adjusting to find focus; as scenes and prescriptions change, so do adjustments). Now before anything, I think what needs the first adjustment is the mentality we often have that says: "Something is wrong with me because I don't exhibit 'xyz' qualities; I need to fix myself." Imagine a world where we could do away with words that held the same gravity as fault, fix, and wrong when it came to our true inner beings.
I'm sure you could skim through several of my past posts where I alluded to changing who I used to be and fixing my mentality. Sure - there's no doubt about that. I just think there's nothing to lose and everything to gain from adopting a spirit of flawlessness when it comes to who we are innately. Perhaps the main struggle is actually discovering who we are innately. Difficult to do since there's so much to uncover throughout the course of our lives - seems to be the reason why they say enjoy the journey, right? I find that to be absolutely true. On this journey, though, I also find that there's a lot of cloudiness that's made even more obscure when we doubt our potential, abate our self-worth, and think we're not up to par based on a set of arbitrary external standards. Please allow me to disclaim that I'm not trying to say that every action we take is the right action in every scenario, no matter what laws or regulations say. I'm trying to say that the place from where our intentions come have no cracks or faults. They are whole and complete. I believe that all we're doing in our time on this Earth is discovering ways to align who we truly are with the people around us and the world around us.
So that means we can't force puzzle pieces that just don't fit (if you know what I mean). That means when our intuition tells us to either go for something or to quit something because it's just a waste, we should probably listen to it. That also means that it's really a futile effort to compare any part of our journeys to another person's, because we're all just artists with maybe the same tools but different methods to make magic, and it never made sense to compare apples to oranges, right?
**You are whole and complete. You are enough.**